My guy and I have been dating for a month and at my insistance, it's been purely sexual up until the last couple of days when deeper emotions finally started to come into play for both of us. Mind-blowing sex will do that, I guess. Just a few days after our first time together, I told him that I wanted another woman in bed with us. I definitely want to play with her and be played with, but mostly I want to watch my fabulous sex god do to her what he does to me. I'm getting so turned on thinking about it right now. So, this has been hovering for more than 3 weeks and we both know it's time. Here are my questions for anyone who has experience with this:

1. Finding that girl is much easier said than done. We are an attractive couple. He does frequent one particular strip club and suggested we might bring someone home from there and we have a couple of local swingers' clubs. But I was recently talking to another attractive couple who ironically, were trying to recruit me for THEIR threesome and they said they'd attempted both of those with no results. Any solid ideas on where to find this illusive creature, the perfect third?

2. I'm very excited about the sexual experience itself for everyone involved but I do have one major, knawing concern - what to do between sessions and when the sex is over? I don't want my guy cuddling with this random girl and I don't want the dynamic between her and either of us to cross the line from fling to anything else. How do couples handle this aspect of it?

I know you couples are out there so don't be shy. Please give me any advice you can offer. I want to broaden my sexual horizons with this man but I'd like to keep this budding relationship intact as well. Thanks!