I've posted on here before about disagreements that I've had w/the mother of the children I watch reguarding nap time. I've been watching N full time since he was an infant. He's now 3.5. I've been w/the family five years total since the older kids were toddlers.
N has always been a great napper. We have a very consistent routine, & 90% of the time he falls asleep within 10 minutes. I put him down around 1 or 1:30, & he would sleep until sometimes 4:00. A few months ago, his mom requested that I don't let him sleep past 3, so that he'll be tired by betdtime. I started waking him up at 3, & usually it was fine. Sometimes he was still a bit tired, but it was better than nothing. Earlier this week she asked me to stop having him take naps all together, because she puts him to bed at 8, & he won't fall asleep for an hour. I didn't say this to her, but my response in my head would be 'So what? You work all day, shouldn't you take that extra hour & spend time w/him?'.
If a 3 year old falls asleep & stays asleep so easily, isn't that a sign that you should let him take a nap? Maybe I'm just being so annoyed by this because I really like my two hour break. I've been having him sit quietly in his bed w/the lights dim for an hour looking at books by himself. I still get an hour break, & he seems cool w/it. It's just the principle of that matter, I suppose.
Oh, & there's another thing. Sometimes the family goes out at night, to see a play or go to a friend's house for dinner, etc. On those days (maybe a few times a month), she wants him to take a nap since he'll be getting to bed later. I can't tell him he's allowed to read books in bed one day, & then insist that he go to sleep another day. I guess it's really not my problem if he's crabbing at their night time outing, but it just seems like a ridiculous request.
Thanks for letting me vent. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.