I'm in the middle of a divorce, been alone for over 2 years now, and I've had it, so I've decided to start dating again. At what point should I maybe mention that I have a pretty high grade sex drive? The last time I dated I was 23 and everyone was horny all the time, but now I'm going to probably be dating some men in their 30's and 40's, and I hear rumors that there's a lot of men that age that don't want to have sex all the time. My STBX is bipolar, so he would swing back and forth from hypersexual to asexual at the drop of a dime, which is pretty confusing, though not as traumatic as the rest of it. Also, does anyone have any insight into just HOW I'm supposed to find someone who both loves to have sex AND is not A) crazy B) doesn't only wants a sexual relationship and C) will not think I'm a slutty mess??? It's maybe a little more awkward for a woman because everyone just expects men to want to have sex all the time, while people tend to think women are doing men a favor. It's so weird!!