So my mom and I have not had the best relationship. She raised me, but I ended up being everything I am in spite of my upbringing-thank goodness! I moved out at 18 into DH (BF at the time) parents home. They are very religious, so they kept us on separate floors on separate sides of the house... I was actually right across from his parents. My mom and I have maybe spoke a total of six months (maybe) in ten years. She missed my senior prom, high school graduation, college graduation, wedding shower, and wedding. Anyway, today we planned to go to lunch, so she could see the baby bump and ultrasound photos... Surprise, surprise, she doesn't disappoint and she cancelled. I anticipated her doing that, but it's still frustrating that I allowed myself to even give her my time. UGH, and I am not trying to be spiteful, but I really don't want her coming to the baby shower trying to buy a bunch of stuff (she's the type of person who likes the credit to say she helped) or the hospital when I have the baby. She proved or re-proved the type of person she is. That's exactly why she'll have little contact with her grandchildren (from me) unless I am around and only in public since I refuse to go to her house and won't allow her in mine- it's that bad!