Here is a snap shot of my A: both married, coworkers, started 11/08. Dday on his side 4/09. He leave company 8/09. There follows three years of flux between daily chats and this is the end phone calls.
I can only call his private work number and he NEVER calls my cell unless I have called him first in case I stayed home from wotk that day or my DH has my phone. We only see each other once a year now.
In June I manage 20 days NC after telling him I am done. Then I break nc. We talk off and on. Then we both have vacation and I just don't call again, since July 27.
Yesterday I received a call from a payphone in the town where he works. I know it was him. He leaves no message. He was always very protective of me and I know he must be worried that something awful has happened to me. But he is also protecting himself by not calling from his work number, not using his cell, not calling my job. But I feel like a heel not telling him I'm ok, just done with this whole A.
I want to leave a msg that says " I am done. Please don't call me again." He would respect my wishes. Seems more humane then leaving him worried.
Ok wise Ladies AND Gentlemen. . . Advice???