How do you approach your SO about their spending habits without launching an all-out war? I've known my fiance for a few years, we rent a house together and are getting married this winter. There's one thing I've noticed since moving in, though, that is really irking me. He's gotten quite trigger-happy with making online purchases on his phone- shoes, camping equipment, books, a new jacket he did NOT need (he already has a few he's hardly worn). He insists that he's getting everything at a discount and that makes it ok but I'm starting to see him as someone who can't stop himself from shopping compulsively online. I don't want this to become some horrible issue that lands us in court one day. I know I'm not innocent, i.e. I'll spend money on beauty products, but the thing is, I actually USE them. He's got stuff still sitting in its packaging.
He's always been a thoughtful boyfriend, a good person, a hard worker, but his online spending habits are getting a little disturbing. Based on what I know, he wasn't always very smart with money-- made some mistakes when he was younger-- but since we started dating he's been, overall, very responsible and pretty generous with me, and he's expressed the fact that he knows he had a lot to learn about money during college. I don't want to nag him though and tell him what he can and can't buy. I've seen relatives yelling at each other -- usually the women yelling at the men-- over buying what one person calls junk. I don't want to become like that and I already sensed some tension from him the last time I asked him why he made what I thought was a wasteful purchase.