It was a big birthday year and both my BF's missed it. I am not mad at them -- life goes on. One missed it completely and the other texted me the day of saying she was at a play in the city all day. They wound up both calling late the next day to apologize - one said she was in the city all day at a play and restaurant and other that it was a crazy week. One has two small children and the other is single. I did not expect them to come and see me -- especially the one with children -- too challenging for her.
I guess I felt as if one could make time for a play or other activities she could have made time for a 5 minute phone call. I would never berate them or yell at them for this -- it is just not my style. I know you can't make people spend time with you or show you that they care if they have other priorities. Life gets busy.
I am trying so hard not to be upset and to understand how crazy life can be. I have called them back and just keep missing them -- although I am not trying too hard to catch them on the phone so now we are playing phone tag. They have always told me how special I am to them and how much they appreciated the support I provided to them over life's issues. Am I overreacting?