We are originally from India and living in America for 20+ yrs. DD14 has been learning Indian (classical) dance for a few years but doesn't want to do it anymore. I am also not keen on pursuing this. DD14 is not a good multi-tasker and cannot do many activities. In grade 9, she wants to do community service and other after-school activities. She's already doing piano and karate privately.

To my great surprise, DH is suddenly saying DD14 cannot quit. He feels this is the only Indian thing she is learning and she has to keep at it. I am surprised because DH does not really interfere in all these extra-curricular activities but now he says no. I do not see DD going anywhere with dance; why pay $100/month if she does not want to?

Now DD usually sleeps late on weekend mornings and gets up only at 10 am. DH says this dance on Sat. mornings will get her up and is a good physical acitivity (if there was no karate, DD would be totally sedentary - she loves to sit , sit, sit and read).

What do you all think? Dance starts again tomorrow for fall semester and I am so mad at DH.  We do plenty of other indian events and are totally in tune with our culture.  I am thinking DD should quit in grade 10 definitely.

Thanks so much,

Chimi