Please talk to me about this, Especially you wise moms with older children who are past this whole thing..... I have a 9th grader and I have an 8th grader, Hearing them call other girls the "Popular" ones stings and while I don't dismiss that I don't want them growing up intimidated by it either. My 8th grader tried out for a specific part in the school play this year and lost it to a girl she called the "popular" one, My 9th grader is no stranger to the differences in crowds either. I try to downplay it but deep down, Ido believe SOME teachers play favortism there, And there was a case in which we brought this all up at my DD's IEP meeting, The director of special education was blunt and just called the differences in kids the haves and have nots, I could have argued that one for hours, Lol but her point wasn't to offend.. Then you have parents that actually believe these categories matter too, My friend's DD is on the drill team and she has told me that popular-ness is important.
I don't know and thanks for your input. I am trying to raise my kids to believe this doesn't matter, I am grateful we talk and they do stick up for themselves, But it bothers me too that these cliques get in the way of some ambitions at school.