I have a DD who is 16 and will be 17 in a few weeks. All her teachers, people at church and her bosses at work have consistently told us what a good girl she is, how nice, how helpful, how mature, hardworking, etc. The problem is, when she is at home she loses any kind of "filter" she may possess, and engages her mouth before her brain. She can be very disrespectful to me, mean to her brother, and says things to him that are completely unacceptable. Of course, she waits until I am not around to really be horrible to DS (15 y.o.), so it is just his word against hers. Thursday was a particularly bad morning, and rather than yelling at her or punishing her immediately, I wanted to take some time to think about what would truly be a powerful consequence for her. I decided to make her come right home after the football game last night. Someone in her class usually has a bonfire after the game and it is a very big deal to go. Te explanation I gave her was pretty much, you cannot be mature enough to speak to other family members respectfully, so I don't feel you can handle being in a social situation. I did not yell, I said it as a matter of fact, and yes, she was furious. I am just wondering, what are some things you do when a situation calls for disciplinary action?