I met with my STBX and his lawyer the other day, which was an experience. Though I doubt his lawyer's abilities, he DID make my ex shut up immediately when he tried to go on a tirad against me, so that made me at least not hate the man. I didn't have time to get my lawyer there, and didn't really need her to discuss custody, since I don't have any issues with him visiting, though aparently saying that 8 times, in writing, wasn't clear enough. His lawyer said typically child support is about 20% of the non-cutododial parent's net pay, plus medical payments, which he estimated at about $60/month, and then half of any major medical expenses, like hospital copays. I think this would equal maybe $300/month, since he would be using his last 3 years' tax returns, but he's actually made about 2X that this year. I'm not out to fleece him, but I would love to be able to use the money to actually support my son, so I could use MY paycheck to fix up the house that's falling down (and by "falling down" I literally mean that, as a part of my carport's wall actually FELL down this week).
My question is does that sound fair? Because, to be honest, with a 12-year-old boy, that's barely enough to buy food for the month. I also have to pay someone to spend the night at my house while I'm at work, since I don't feel comfortable leaving him alone overnight, not to mention clothes, shoes, school supplies, athletic supplies, etc. I also have a child in college to support; I'm giving him about $50/week for food & gas, paying another student to stay at the house with my little guy for $50/week, and still helping to support my nephew, whom I have custody of and is living at my father's house right now. I am not poor or anything, but I have thousands of dollars worth of home/car repairs I need to get done, plus a ton of debt I racked up supporting my ex while he spent "his" money on fun stuff for himself. Besides all that, I want to be able to put some of the child support money in a savings account for my son for buying him a car and helping out with college expenses. I know a lot of women who would be thrilled to get that much, but it seems to me that we deserve a little more than that, since I have supported us most of the 15 years we've been married.