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People are driving me crazy!! Venting!
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Tue, 09-18-2012 - 11:54pm

So 15 weeks yesterday and I am starting to think I have received a fresh batch of pregnancy hormones because I am more emotional as the weeks go on and now cry at just about everything. And people are really starting to get on my nerves. Even strangers.

For some reason I find women who already have children giving me advice incredibly insulting, like they think I am stupid or really naive. The advice they give me is obvious s***. Like decaf is better, support your boobs, eat healthy....well duh!! I am not stupid and can't fathom why they feel the need to tell me this obvious crap, like I am some uneducated 16 year old that got themselves knocked up. I am 24 and probably know more about being pregnant than they probably knew when they were pregnant. My mother who passed away in 2003 was an RN and prenatal nurse. She would be perfect to have around at this point in my life, but sadly that isn't the case, which is exactly why I have made it my mission to learn as much as I possibly can and more, about my changing body, and my developing baby!!

I know advice givers are simply trying to help and be nice but when a co-worker overhears me talking about maybe grabbing some poutine for lunch and makes the snarky/sarcastic comment "o thats healthy" (I knew she meant it in a "you shouldn't eat that" sort of way), who is she to talk? I eat a tub of yogurt every day. Spinach salad twice a week and take iron pills along with prenatals.I have a tuna sandwich twice a week, I drink water throughout the day, I have completely cut out caffine aside from the very occassional iced tea....so I have the odd unleathy meal, big f'ing deal. I'll eat what I want, within reason. My bf is a chef and makes sure I eat well since he knows all about food nutrition. Then I had someone tell me that decaf coffee is better for the baby all because I said I wanted a pumpkin latte from starbucks, really?? "Thanks tips" I had no idea.....I simply said,  "Iam aware, which is why so far I have completely cut out caffine."

The other thing that is bugging me is just the random mushy comments people are making, some strange guy was talking away to me while I was on the phone calling someone for him, so I was only half listening to what he was saying. I only realised he was talking about me being pregnant (which I guess he could clearly notice now) when he said  something about a gumball??....and then "your going to have a mini me, how cuuuuuuute" I just smiled and nodded since I was still on the phone. I personally found it pretty creepy!

Then there are those strangers who feel the need to tell me how massive my boobs are, especially for my size.I bought some new track pants from lululemon since I can't wear jeans anymore and I am too small for maternity pants and the girl asked what size I was usually, I said normally a 2 but now a 4 since I am pregnant. She then proceeded to ask how far along  Iam, which is fine, but then randomly said very loud "your boobs are huge, have they grown??" Of course they've grown idiot!

The final thing that bugs me and creeps me out is one co-worker in particular, who I know desperately wants children but has chosen to live in a different country than her bf, so I really have no sympathy for her, it's her choice, she keeps rubbing/touching my stomach everytime she sees me and makes squealing noises,especially now that I am noticably pregnant....its annoying and makes me uncomfortable because I know she is partially living vicariously through me since shes 36 and knows kids probably won't happen for her because of her life choices. Thats all she says, is "I want a baby, I want a baby" Like shut up about it, stop touching me and if you want  a baby so bad go back home and be with your bf instead of living thousands of miles away from him. She doesnt have to live/work here, she just visited here a few years ago, fell in love with the place and never moved back home. So I have no sympathy for her.

Sorry this ended up being a huge b***h fest, turned into quite the rant, which I didn't inted for, but really felt good to let my annoyances out lol. Anyone else being pestered by just about everyone??

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