We were married 24 years this year; for the last two, my husband had a secret affair...i will spare everyone the details. They are horrible and embarassing. i am proud of giving him a second chance but in the end, he left me for the OW. i have quesitons about how to help my young adult daughters, who are devastated and won't talk to him (he doesn't understand why), so any suggestions are welcome for that too. but mostly today i want to hear how people moved forward. i can see the light more these days (it's been 4 months since the "reconciliation" (he was still seeing her) and 9 months since learning about the affair. i go for days thinking i can actually be happy again, then i find myself crying over the pain of the betrayal. Thank you for your ideas on going forward emotionally and socially for myself (as for spiritually, I continue to forgive him).