Hi, I was dating my boyfriend since beginnig of May, The whole time I was concerned about his drinking ... very. finally i realized that it was for sure a problem and I confronted him and told him he needs help. he then told him family and friends and was going to go to out patient rehab. the day he was going to start he admitted there that he was also taking xanxex and was addicted as well... he is not inpatient program. I am a mother of two children who is divorced. I told him i could not be a part of this recovery with him and he needs to get better on his own. i fell in love with him but realized he was never sober with me and he has tons of stuff to work on before he can be healthy in a relationship. but then since he got there he was calling me daily and all im doing is crying cause i totally thought i was going to live my life with him and saw a future... so did my children fell in love with him. but, I can't consure myself with this and be a good mother to my children. so, i have to cut ties and said we can't talk anymore... all I can do is think about him and miss him so much. but, I worry how can I stop everything when i have two small children for a 4 month relationship with an addict. it just does not make sence no matter how much it hurts!!!! ;( how will I ever feel better!!