I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 13 YEARS AND H FIRST AFFAIR WAS AFTER WE'D BEEN MARRIED FOR 7 YEARS (TYPICAL 7 YR ACHE I SUPPOSE) WITH A WOMAN I BEFRIENDED DUE TO HER GOING THRU A DIVORCE AND HAVING ALOT OF DIFFERENT PROBLEMS. MY FRIENDS DIDN'T LIKE HER BUT I TOLD THEM SHE WAS HAVING A HARD TIME AND TO TRY TO UNDERSTAND THAT. SO THEY TOLERATED HER FOR ME. TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT I FOUND OUT THRU PHONE RECORDS ABOUT THE AFFAIR  THEY BOTH CLAIM THE MOST THEY DID WAS KISS AND HEAVY MAKING OUT.  THEY TRIED ONCE TO HAVE SEX IN HIS TRUCK BUT ONCE THEY HAD GOTTEN NAKED HE COULDN'T.  I SUPPOSE THE GUILT KEPT HIM FROM GETTING AN ERECTION. OR MAYBE THEY HAD HAD ORAL SEX AND HE HAD ALREADY HAD AN ORGASM. IDK.  REGARDLESS THEY TALKED VULGAR THRU TEXTING AND MET SEVERAL TIMES AND MADE OUT FOR SURE.  I'M SURE MORE HAPPENED THAN THEY ADMITTED TO.   WE WENT TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING AND I DECIDED NOT TO LET THIS DESTROY ALL OF OUR LIVES.  ALTHOUGH IT WAS HARD AND IT TOOK TIME I EVENTUALLY WAS ABLE TO PUT IT ALL BEHIND US AND MOVE FORWARD WITH OUR LIFE TOGETHER.  NOW FAST FORWARD 6 YEARS AND I'M BACK AT SQUARE ONE.  FRIDAY WE WENT TO A CONCERT AT A LOCAL RESTAURANT/BAR AND MY H KISSED MY YOUNGER SISTER WHO IS 21.  HE IS 36.  THE THING IS WE RAISED HER SINCE SHE WAS 10.  SO THIS IS REALLY GROSSING ME OUT.  HE HAS A DRINKING PROBLEM AND HAS FOR MANY YEARS.  HE DOESN'T DRINK ALL THE TIME BUT WHEN HE DOES HE DOESN'T STOP UNTIL HE BOUT PASSES OUT.  EVERYTIME HE GETS DRUNK LIKE THAT WE ALWAYS HAVE BIG PROBLEMS.  AFTER THE FIRST AFFAIR HE QUIT DRINKING FOR YEARS,  HE EVEN STARTED GOING TO CHURCH AND EVEN QUIT CUSSING.  HE WAS A CHANGED MAN.  THAT IS WHAT MADE ME BELIEVE THAT WE COULD MOVE FORWARD AND SAVE OUR MARRIAGE.   BUT NOW THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED I JUST DON'T KNOW.  HE AND SHE WERE ALONE FOR MAYBE 15 MINUTES.  HE WAS DRUNK AS A SKUNK, AND I HAD LEFT TO PICK UP MY SON. THE CONCERT WASNT QUITE OVER AND IT WAS TIME FOR ME TO GET MY SON FROM HIS FRIENDS.  THE CONCRT ENDED BEFORE I RETURNED AND H SAT DOWN AGAINST A TREE  MY SISTER SAT DOWN BESIDE HIM.  HE PUT HIS ARM AROUND HER AND PULLED HER CLOSE TO HIM AND KISSED HER ON THE MOUTH. SHE SAID SHE PULLED AWAY BUT COULD TELL WHAT KIND OF KISS IT WAS. SHE TOLD HIM U ARE LIKE MY DAD, THATS NOT COOL.  AND SHE SAID HE SAID I KNOW BUT IM SO ATTRACTEDTO YOU, AND TRIED TO KISS HER AGAIN.  SHE THEN STOOD UP AND TOLD HIM TO STOP. AND THATS WHEN I DROVE UP.  SHE TEXT ME AS SOON AS SHE GOT IN THE TRUCK AND TOLD ME SHE HAD SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO TELL ME ASAP.  WHEN WE GOT HOME SHE STARTED CRYING AND TOLD ME.  SHE DOESNT LIVE WITH US BUT WAS SPENDING THE NIGHT THAT NIGHT. HE SAYS HE SWEARS HE DOESN'T REMEMBER DOING THAT. HE SAYS HE'S HUMILIATED IF IT DID HAPPEN. I KNOW IT HAPPENED.  HE MAY OR MAY NOT REMEMBER BUT THAT DOESNT MATTER.  IT HAPPENED  I KNOW HE'S EMBARRASSED AND SHOULD BE.  MY QUESTION IS WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO. MY SISTER WILL ALWAYS BE A PART OF MY LIFE.  AND IF HE WILL TRY THAT WITH HER I'M SURE HE WOULD WITH SOMEONE ELSE.  HE WORKS OUT OF TOWN WITH FEMA FROM TIME TO TIME SO IM DEF NOT GONNA BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM.  I HAVE TO FIND A JOB AND I GUESS PUT MY 4 YEAR OLD IN DAYCARE.  WE LIVE ON HIS FAMILYS LAND BUT IM STAYING HERE FOR NOW.  ITS EASIER FOR HIM TO RELOCATE THAN ME WITH 4 KIDS.  RIGHT NOW THE PLAN IS FOR HIM TO STAY IN OUR CAMPER IN THE YARD TEMPORARILY UNTIL HE FINDS SOMEWHERE TO MOVE IT TO. AND WE ARE GOING TO SPEND SOME TIME APART UNTIL I DECIDE WHAT TO DO.  ANY ADVICE, SUGGESTIONS, OR COMMENTS WOULD BE APPRECIATED.  PLEASE READ MY PROFILE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ME AND MY SITUATION. THANKS!!