I didn't use to be happily married. I have posted here before. Back then, I was an active alcoholic. Today, I can happily say I'm recovering from that. I have 9 months sobriety. But this is not about that, necessarily.
About a month ago I ran into an ex-boyfriend at an AA mtg. I ignored him for awhile, but then felt I should approach him to make things more comfortable. We havent' seen each other in 16 yrs.
Since that time, we have been texting, and had a couple of phone calls. Yesterday he came by my office and we chatted, mostly about alcoholism.
Today he called and wants to stop by again.
I know I'm in danger zone. But am not sure what to do, if anything.
My husband is about to undergo neck surgery and he's really been incognito for the past 2 weeks. But before that we were very close and getting along just great. Things have been tough at home but I love him just as much as ever. I've been spending a lot of time taking him to dr's appts and such and taking care of him at home.
I can't figure out what my deal is with this ex. He's not exactly hot. Or together. He's had 4 dui's, and is living in a sober house. Not exactly what you'd call a catch. But I enjoy talking to him.
I did tell my husband all about it and he was fine about the whole thing. I have not told him about the calls, or the office visit. I'm a little nervous about what I'm doing. I'm not sure why I'm doing it, other than the obvious reason that my husband is not able to be present and perhaps I'm lonely in that regard?
I am pretty sure what kind of comments I'll get to this, but I would still appreciate hearing your thoughts and experience on the matter. Thanks in advance.