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kima32 [1]
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Sat, 10-06-2012 - 2:56am

I'm thirtyish woman trying to date, the problem I've been having is that I get attached very fast why? simply because I like the feeling of being liked and the attention...yes I said attention. I started to attend a spiritual group and I met a young man that works there, since we had conversations before I saw no harm in giving him my phone number of course I was already attracted to him so I was ready, in fact I saw it as some kind of conquest. So here it starts right away we speak several times on the phone and thru text he tells me all the stuff I want to hear..."your so pretty" "smart" and the one that reeled me in " I like you a lot" so we began to date. Not only did we go out but I saw him twice a week because if the group and we would have good conversations. We went out a few times and it led to heavy make out sessions. I let him know right away I was not looking for a sexual relationship and stood my ground about waiting until I'm ready to have sex. He started to get distant answering texts with one word, and not returning calls after I approach him on it he says its work issues. I didn't believe him so instead of waiting to get dumped I dump him first. Well he calls back after I dump him very upset saying that he can't give 100% out of fear from being rejected meanwhile I feel the same way I don't want to get rejected either. Now he's has been texting more but I don't know what to do...he's been dropping hints about having sex eventhough I told him I'm not ready. At this point I don't know what to do.I like him but we haven't gone out lately and I asked him once about it and he said were going out soon but never make any arrangements. Please help I think he just want to have sex and not really invested in my feeling but he will call and text a lot but no action.I'm sorry I forgot to say he mentions SEX all the time!!!!!!!!!! That's why I really confused.

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