Hi everyone! First time I've ever posted on a forum like this. Here's my issue. I've been married for 23 years with the love of my life. We have seven kids. This is a variation on the "lack of sex" theme. Rather, its the quality of sex theme. My wife is accommodating. While I appreciate that as an act of love (I rarely am refused), she has basically let it be known that she considers sex (even though she enjoys it) as the last obligation she might have in the day. She likens it to the working out - you sometimes don't want to but are always glad you did it.
So, basically, I'm kind of a burden, and I don't like to be perceived like that. We are both busy, but not so busy that we can't spice things up. Basically, wanting anything more than the standard increases the obligation. I can't stand it. If my libido would let me get away with it, I'd honestly see giving it up altogether rather than just continue to be the thrice weekly obligation. My wife is very attractive and I've always complimented her. I sometimes if she might be an example of the cliche that "pretty girls don't try too hard."
Don't get me wrong, she doesn't complain, but the other night when I expressed some disappointment because I thought we were going to make some special magic and it came in as the standard, we talked and basically I'm just the thing in the day to get done.
I feel rather stupid complaining about the quality of sex when so many are stressed because they aren't getting any, but this is driving me crazy. Any thoughts?