Anyone think there's hope for my marriage?
I'm new here but I gather "LL" means low-libido? that would be me. It's more like "NL" meaning NO libido. I hate sex and want no part of it.
I went along with it to save my marriage but couldn't do it anymore. just couldn't. cut him off 9 mths ago. I thought we could have a friendly marriage and he could just "take care of things himself". I told him i would understand if he had to find a girlfriend. Never thought he would... but now I caught him texting someone and he came clean and said it's someone he wants to date, they've been talking & texting but nothing has happened yet. He apparently has been talking to her about our situation and she has been very sympathetic and asked him out for a drink but he was fishing with a buddy and said maybe another time.
I feel sick to my stomach!! Do not know how to handle this! I do not want him to have a girlfriend! I dont know what to do! In all other ways we are so very married. We get along great, but I have not been warm cuz I didn't want to give a mixed signal.
I asked him if it's too late and he kind of said yes, but then spent the next 2 days crying. He's at a baseball game tonite with his friend and I was sick to my stomach that he is with this girl so he txt'd me pics of the game & his friend. I asked him if it's too late (texted him at the game) He told me to stop harassing him - he doesn't have an answer to that.
Sick to my stomach. Anyone think this is a lost cause??
I have been a basket case all night-- tried very hard no to let my kids see, but I think they could sense my anxiety. I hope this is not how its going to be.