Hi all.

This may be a new one, maybe not. Let me explain what is happening.

Our 16 yr daughter seems desparate to make friends.  She has very few friends outside of school. A couple girls she sees only sporatically.  So basically our daughter is home all the time outside of school.  This is a large city and she has loads of internet friends that she talks with, but not people she hangs out with.  She is a particular girl and has had a few boys from town interested in her but she says they arent worthy.

So last yr she saw a picture of a boy on facebook and she started to message him.  We live in BC Canada.  He lives in Ohio USA.  He is a couple yrs older than her. Now lives with friends and works at a burger place.  They talk regularly on webcam.  ( and before anyone asks, no she doesnt expose herself to him).  I believe her that she knows the long term consequences of that type of action on her future and future employment. 

I wasnt really concerned about talking with him.  I knew she talked late into the middle of the night on Friday and Saturday night, after he gets off work.  ( He is also 3 hours ahead in the time zone).  So last Sunday, I saw her light on at 6am. I walked in her room and saw her asleep with her webcam tilled toward her face. I got upset with her and she got mad at me.

My husband and I explained that we felt it was inapropriate.  Of course she is continually debating and says, why as she isnt doing anything wrong and she is fully dressed.  We think it is just crossing the line but that isnt enough of an explanation for her.

She says all the kids at school think we are ridiculous in our thinking.  I said oh course they think that.  They are your age.  She then says the school councillor also thinks its weird that we don't agree.  I then told her I would go talk to the councillor.  Then she got upset.  I asked did the councillor actually agree or disagree but she wont answer.  I think the councillor just listens and actually doesnt express right or wrong which is why she got upset when I said I would go to school.

My husband has a program that blocks internet to her room when we feel she needs to be grounded from the internet.  So today we said we would cut the internet at 2am.  She got very upset and slammed her bedroom door.  She is babysitting now so we will see in a few hours how she handles it.

Are we wrong in thinking sleeping in front of the webcam is inappropriate?