Sorry, I can't post any comments (not authorized apparently!) And I can only post in the body of a message on my computer, not my phone (but I digress).
I would add sleep to your list of things to help during initial shock of finding out about an A. So many of us go days without any that our decision making can become erratic at best. Even if you have to reach out to your doctor for meds to help your body needs to shut down and sleep in order for you to have time to rest from all the thoughts running through our heads.
I know the first several days I went on little to no sleep and my doc gave me something. At least after a good day of being rested physically, I was able to think clearer.
As always Tom, I for one am grateful you post here. One for a man's perspective and two for your wisdom and insight and actually hope that things can get better.