Hi all. Not sure where to post this. My MIL is a widowed woman in her 80's. She has 3 sons that all live at least 7 hours away. Her oldest and his wife visited her 2 years ago. They stayed a month. Left the house 3 times. Didn't buy groceries. Didn't cook. Didn't take her out for any meals. Pretty much took over her house. She tried to "hint" that they should leave after 2 weeks and they ignored it. She even invented a "trip" she was taking and they told her they would just stay there without her. After a month, she finally told them to leave. I wrote him a scathing email regarding his rudeness. I'm not sure if he even got it or read it. She has since sent him a letter explaining her feelings. She has also sent birthday and Christmas cards with checks in them. I assume he won't even open them since he doesn't cash the checks. He will not answer his phone and she has not heard from him in 2 years. His 2 brothers (my husband and brother-in-law) have also tried to contact him. My MIL is understandably: heartbroken and pissed. Can anyone think of any way to contact him? I think she deserves some "closure" (if that's the right word). He has a daughter who stays in contact with her grandmother but is unwilling or unable to believe that her parents are so thoughtless and kind of crazy. I understand that. They are, after all, her parents. His behavior is causing such emotional distress for my MIL. I don't want her to jeapordize her emotional and physical health over this. But I don't know where to start. Any ideas are welcome.