So my husband has a job that he is on call 24/7, doesn't have set hours. Last Saturday, I took the kids ot a local campground for trick or treat. The campground doenst' have great cell service and so my husband didnt' go for fear of missing a call. When I left, he asked "so how long do you think you will be?" This always throws up a red flag. We left early due to my family camping at hte campgorund and I wanted to spend some time with them. So this left a good window where he was home to do what he wanted. I told him I wasn't sure, trick or treat started at 6 but we would probably stay a little after to visit with my family that was camping. Anyway, I get home at 8:30 and my husband is not there. I didn't get a text saying he was going to work. I call him, no answer, text him, no answer. So of course due to the past issues we have had I wonder where he is. Finally an hour and a half later he calls, says his phone was on vibrate and he didnt' hear me call. Said he was in one of his works cabs on his way somewhere (I can't remember where). But there was no background noise. If he was in cab at least two other people would have been in it, plus the noise from the vehicle would be in background. It was dead silent. So then the next night he gets called in, well says he has to go to work. When I was checking the phone bill for Saturdays call, I didn't actually check it until monday. Well I see that he got a call from work over an hour after leaving and saying he was going to work. I ask him why worked called an hour after he went to work and not before. He says he took the call, which means he called htem. But said when he got there his engineer said that he was going to be late so the pushed the call back an hour to prevent him from being late? They call an hour and a half before he has to actually be there to give him time to get ready and get there. So that leaves him with at least 2hrs that he wasn't working. Am I wrong to be worrried about this? He was also more attentive to me Sunday, didn't get mad when I questioned him about these things which he normally does, and also he has acted more like he doesnt' trust me. I want to be able to trust him, but I also don't want to be walked all over and used again and hurt again. I already feel like an idiot for not seeing the signs of the affair he had with my best friend that lasted over a year. I ignored the signs fo that one. Not on purpose but only because I trusted her and never believed she would do soemthing like that. Him, i had already had some trust issues with. My brother in law also asked me about a month ago, how I didn't know it was going on. Talk about making me feel like an idiot. It seems everyone else saw the signs except me. Which is another thing that bothers me. Why didnt' anyone tell me! my sister said she was trying to get proof. My brother n law said it was none of his business? I don't know why everyone else chose not too. I havne't reallly asked them. I dont' think any of them had proof, the signs were just clearer to them and my dad and stepmom told me that as soon as I went inside when we were there swimming, it was like someone switched a switch and they were right together talking and flirting. So i don't want to be in this situation again. So I am constantly watching for signs. How do you go back to trusting someone after all this. And how do you know if its an overreaction or there really are signs?