I believe I have mentioned this before but after years of providing all for my kids and having to step up for hubby's kids I am going to have to disengage and steer hubby in stepping up and taking care of his own when they visit. I have a special needs child who is a handful and keeps me extremely busy. I do everything for my own two and I have always felt like when my step children come to visit that their dad needs to step up and do some cooking. For years I've busted my butt making huge meals and doing all the clean up of the kitchen and around the house and now I resent it. I should not have to do all for mine and all for his. I've mentioned it and he has made snarky comments like I know you hate cooking for my kids. He doesn't get it. I have tried and tried and explained that he should step up and help and do more. I have tried telling him things like the kitchen is closed this weekend, what are you going to make for dinner, etc. We just end up arguing over it. He says stupid things like you hate my children, which is a lie. He has extreme guilt issues and parents with guilt and expects me to just do everything. Well this weekend I am taking off mid day on Sat and Sun and won't be around to cook and clean. I'm sure we will again get into another arguement but I don't care. They are bringing a friend over too this weekend. We have very little space. One gets the couch, the other the floor and I suppose the third can sleep in the hallway. We have now become a hotel for his daughter's friend to come and see her brother in town. The last time she came up she ate me out of house and home. I'm tired of it. I don't mind cooking and doing for others but because I do everything for mine, I resent also having to do everything for his. He will be in a bowling tournament all day Saturday and has to work on Sunday. I'm not going to sit around and entertain all three guests. I've made plans to go out and do things and I wasn't even asked if we could have a house full this weekend. Tired of doing and doing and not receiving much. I need to put myself first for a change and let dad step up. If I always do then he's got the excuse that he doesn't have to. Let him get McDonald's and pizza and play hotel for a weekend. The cook, maid and bottle washer has the weekend off!!