Hi all. I'm not sure this is the appropriate place in the forum to put this but since you are all such awesome ladies I thought I would try here first. My DD is 9 weeks old. I'm EP'ing and despite a bumpy start and getting into a routine and actually starting to really enjoy her. However, this week my DH totally had a meltdown. He's struggling with feelings of inadequacy. He thinks the dog and our daughter hate him. If I leave to go do errands he says she "screams the whole time" while I'm gone. He says he wants to figure things out by himself and he doesn't want me swooping in to help but he gets so frustrated and upset. It's not that he's incapable, he's just impatient and then when all he's trying isn't working, he gets angry. Which makes him about as soothing as a chainsaw to our daughter. Then when I manage to calm her, he gets even more angry. I am not the kind of mom who has to do everything myself. My husband works from home so while I've been home on leave he gets to see her multiple times a day. He's the primary bath giver, he feeds her in the evenings so I can have some time to myself, he puts her to bed and changes lots of diapers. He's involved. I can't figure out how to support him. I keep telling him he's doing a great job and that we're both still learning. I offer suggestions when asked but stay quiet when not. I'm trying to encourage him to talk to his friends who are dads but I know he thinks it would be like admitting a weakness or failure. Thoughts ? Suggestions ? Recipes for some extremely awesome dessert that will make me forget how frustrated I am ? I can't keep being the full time baby and dog caregiver ( oh yeah did I mention that my dog gets EXTREMELY clingy and nervous when anybody in the house gets angry or raises their voice ?) So I'm constantly tripping over the dog and trying to sooth him, and my baby, and my husband. HELP !!