I finally can say dh's and my life has finally settled down somewhat. With 7 kids between us, there may always be "something" that arises, but recently, things seem to be somewhat peaceful. We are far from "over" with the younger 3, but until March, there is nothing that can be done with DSS19. Dh paid off his hefty DOT fines only to find out he isn't eligible to get his license back until March. Sooo...there he sits...in our basement...no schooling, no job...zero. Frustrating to say the least. Luckily, he has found some friends, so isn't home at night all that often. But, actually...that isn't why I am writing today.
Yesterday over my noon hour, I went and bought all new cat supplies. I had a cat when I was single and dh forbid it to come live with us as he HATES cats and hated the way my cat shed (yes...he was a long hair) and dh thinks all cats pee on carpet and ruin a home. I have ALWAYS loved cats and have pretty much always had one and have recently started to miss having one. (Long story short, my cat went to live with DD27 and died several months ago of an enlarged heart. He was only 12 and was the best cat ever.) Anyway, dh, I think, has finally conceded, but I still fear his reaction tomorrow when I tell him I'm going to go to our nearby shelter and adopt a cat. I've been VERY honest with him and told him I'd been thinking of getting another cat for a while. Tomorrow is "National Adopt a Pet" day, so I find it an appropriate day to do so. I found a 3 year old cat on the shelter's website who sounds perfect for me as I don't want a kitten. I want a ready-to-bring-home cat who has all her shots and is declawed. Dh is the "overdramatic" type who has told me in the past if I brought a cat home that he would leave. I told him that if he ever wanted a big dog (which we can't have anyway since we live in a condo and it's not allowed), that I would be fine with that because I knew it would make HIM happy. I told him that when you love someone, that you want them to be happy, so why should one spouse tell the other one what to do?? (My ex also hated cats and that's all he talked about in marriage counseling was how I disrespected him every time I brought home a cat. I didn't talk to him before I'd bring one home knowing he'd say no and, in my opinion, who was HE tell ME what I could and couldn't do in my own home?) I just hope dh loves me enough not to get too upset tomorrow. :( I'm very excited to be getting a new cat and yet I fear what it might do to us.