Hi everybody - it's been a while since I was here, just checking in.
My 20yo dd at university is doing splendidly well, living your typical college dream. After roommate troubles at the end of last year, she moved into a house with 3 other girls she hadn't met before (which was scary) but it turns out it was the best thing ever, in her opinion. They all get along very well. She's gotten 2 promotions at her job over the last few months. She works at the university's hotel/banquent center - not her career choice by any means, but a decent-paying job that works around her schedule & pays her bills while she's in school. She finally chose a major at the end of her sophomore year: Interdisciplinary Studies with business emphasis focusing on human capitol & society. Honestly - not sure what that all means but she likes it & her classes are going well. She's now seeking internships in her field.
My 17yo dd at community college is the polar opposite (personality-wise) of the 20yo and is such a drama queen! Seriously, she craves drama & if things get too boring, she creates her own. One day she's all depressed & complaining because she's failing everything. The next day she checks her grades online & all her classes are in the high 80's - high 90's (percentages) which are FAR from failing and she's on cloud nine. After working so hard to graduate last spring from the uber-flexible alternative high school class format - coming into a very structured college setting has been a challenge. There was a tangible goal last year to work towards - pass everything and get that diploma. This year she's got no clear/specific goal to work towards. Well, she has one - in order to claim her $1,000.00 scholarship from the high school, she has to pass all her classes w/ a certain GPA. It's proved to be quite motivating, actually. But Girl has no clue what she wants to do... and has changed her mind a gajillion times already (and she's only her first semester!). General studies to Culinary Arts (hospitality program) to Biology to Theater to.... Lord only knows what next! Overall, things are going better for her now than they were early-on, now that she's getting the hang of things. [And now realizes that a low grade on an assignment doesn't mean the professor hates her - it means she turned in half-assed work.] For a while I didn't think she was going to be able to hack it... and it scared the hell out of me. Next up is her driving test (driver's license! Yay!) which will get her a little more mobile & less dependent on us to get her anywhere & everywhere. She's working through some of her insecurity & finally making some friends at school, getting more involved. Right now - she's on top of the world & thinks her life is great!
And then I've got a 9 year old dd in 4th grade. The school just finished their yearly state standardized testing & we received a note home telling us that she got such high marks, they recommend that we look into the gifted/talented programs. Three days later we have our Parent/Teacher conferences and learn she got a D- in science (only because the teacher upped a score on one paper so she wouldn't fail), a C in social studies, a C in Math, B in reading. It's not because she doesn't know the material - her test scores are great. It's mainly because she turns in homework late. Or she does the homework & loses it in the vortex of mess that is her desk. She does her work, shoves it in her desk, and can't find it again when it's time to turn it in the next day. Really, she doesn't bring home much homework & the teacher said she encourages the kids to finish work at school. Especially the math, because [to paraphrase]: we parents are stupid & wouldn't understand the "new math." I'm sorry, I've been a numbers geek forever, and an accountant for 20 years. I'm pretty sure I can help my 9 year old learn how to add, subtract, multiply & divide. I bet I can even figure out the "new" methods which I think are stupid. And after helping the 17yo through HS algebra, I cannot see how the methods being taught now will be useful in higher levels of math. BUT THAT'S a thread for the grade-school board. My next challenge is getting the little girl organized so she can be successful in 4th grade!!!
So... yeah! That's what's going on.
[I apologize for the typos, hopefully this somewhat makes sense. :) ]