I'm new here and would be happy to offer advice regarding gender identity issues that may threaten your relationship.
Now in my early seventies, I've been aware of my transgender status on some level since the age of six. It took a very long time and a great deal of study to understand and come to terms with the person I feel I am.
Having been very happily married for decades to an understanding woman, I consider myself fortunate to have escaped the sad fate that awaits a large percentage of my kind in our society. I've published a book that I hope will be helpful to others who suffer because of a mismatch between the genders of their bodies and their minds.