I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. I have also been putting up with an affection-less, sex-less relationship for the same amount of time. We live together in my home that I own. He gives me money  once a month which includes half the mortgage, condo fee, electric and cable.. I don't  make enough money at this time, and I haven't made much money for the majority of time we have been together.  There have been times that he has had to help me with bills beyond his monthly payment to me. He has bought a new AC unit, and helped me file for bankruptcy. I have had such financial problems because I don't make enough. Total he has spent about $3000 to help me.  I am trying and have been for the past 2 years to find a better job, additional job, or whatever to make more money so I don't need his $500 a month.  I am very dissatisfied with the relaitonship I have with him. He has issues with intimacy that he admits to. However, he says that until I am able to contribute more financially( equally) than he feels no need to work on his issues. I feel that I am suffering emotinally in this relationship. It is so dysfunctional that I am beginning to resent him. He does absolutely no housework(I don't ask him to clean, just to pick up after himself). He says again when I start being able to stand on my feet financially he will start doing more around the house. He buries himself in his computer for hours after work and on weekends doing fantasy sports. I feel that I am not a priority to him. I am stressed enough about my finances. I feel like being with him is giving me even more stress. His lack of affection makes me feel so unloved. I want to be kissed, hugged, touched, told I am loved, and made love to- and he gives me none of this.  He uses the fact that I am struggling financially as leverage over the relationship. I really don't think he understands how I feel and the stress I go through every day. He has a good paying job, and no financial problems whatsoever. He can buy whatever he wants and his bills are always paid. I am not asking for sympathy from him, but for empathy. He told me that he doesn't think I will ever pay him  back or ever be financially stable. Just because I made a big financial mistake in the past he holds that against me. I have been paying for my mistake for years,  and I don't need him throwing it in my face the way he does. Are the majority of men like this? I don't know. I have never been in a relationship where I have had to ask for help paying for things. I feel so stuck.