I have been with my BF for just over 6months (but have known him since we were kids) and I've tried and tried but now I'm totally lost about what to do next...
I shall try and keep this brief. Basically he seems to find sex a total taboo, talking about it, trying anything other than your two basic positions. He's ok receiving oral but giving it appears to be out of the question. He has finally come round to the idea that I do need to orgasm occasionally but it's always post sex and is clearly a chore.
It takes me forever to convince him to have sex (he maybe instigates it once in twenty times) and when we do it's like a race to the finish, there's no passion in it, it's 2mins and off he jumps (no I don't think it's that he gets ahead of himself so to speak I think that's how he likes it to work), allows me mine and it's all done. He won't talk about it either so I'm working blind trying to find ways to improve the situation as I have a relatively high sex drive. I have tried spontaneity in different places around the house but last time I did that not only was finishing me off a chore but he actually watched TV and stopped what he was doing at one point because he became so distracted. If we could talk maybe it would be ok but it's just 'not to be talked about'.
Someone please tell me they have so kind of solution for me, I'm a big fan of sex and think if he let his guard down it would actually be great, plus I love him to death and we're only in our mid-twenties, it's gonna be a long time together if sex is barely present!
Thanks for listening (well reading!)
Miss G x