Recently my husband;s adopted son resurfaced after 9 years absence in our lives even we he lived within the same city. I had sent him messages through f/b inviting him to his fathers fathers day cookout, he was invited to his dad's birthday party but never showed up for anything. But what hurt my husband most of all was when I had told his son that his dad had fallen off a roof and was in the hospital with several broken bones in his back and his son never called or showed any interest in his well being. My husband also when into the hospital for chest pains and I let the son know and he never called came by or showed any interest. He has lived with us for two years until he graduated from high school. Then he just dropped out of our life with on reason or explational. Anyway out of no where his son is trying to reenter our lives and my husband is unwilling to allow him in. We have a 16 year old son who was very hurt when john disappeared from his life. My husband's position is that he is not willing to welcome him in because he has our son to think about and don;t want him to drop in our lives and then drop out again with no answers. My husband does not want to welcome him in with open arms because after all this time has passed we have no idea who we would be welcoming in our home. I think he should at least meet and find out what's on his mind. Should I just stay out of it and let my husband work this out on his own?