As we all know, the Holiday Season is upon us. In addition to putting additional demands on our time, energy, money and very PRESENCE, it is also a time when domestic abuse increases. Unfortunately, this is also a time of increased demand on law enforcement and other agencies that should be here for the victims of abuse. But because of these increased demands, it's likely that law enforcement will not be as readily available or as responsive as they need to be. With this in mind, I am asking that any of you who are actively posting or are still not comfortable with posting to please, please, please, MAKE A SAFETY PLAN of some sort. If you can't get to a DV agency advocate who can assist you in making one, at least check out the webpages for this board. The link for it can be found in the very first post on this board. Within those webpages are resources for making your own safety plans, from the very simplest to the most complex. No white knight is going to come charging up on his mighty steed to "rescue" you and take you away to "happily ever after".
I realize that many of us who are not out of our abusive relationships have no idea where to turn or what to do as a result of the conditioning we experience at the hands of the abuser in our lives. It is at this time of the year that I feel the most helpless, powerless, and angry, because I know that the abuse is increasing and the resources are dwindling. I belong to a Facebook group called Domestic Violence Crime Watch, which was created and is maintained by two former members, one of whom was a community leader for this board when I first joined here. Once I have gotten squared away with my new position, and after the Holidays are over, I will be working with them on some special projects, in addition to what I do here. I am PASSIONATE in my belief that EDUCATION about domestic violence/abuse is probably the single most important thing we can do to help bring about an end to it. Our legal systems desperately need education, our schools need to teach about it, our churches need to talk about it and our communities need to stand united against it. In order to accomplish this, we all, as victims, survivors, or family and friends of someone who is, need to do one thing and that is
BREAK THE SILENCE, END THE VIOLENCE.
Domestic abuse thrives in secrecy and silence. I will be silent no more, I will not keep quiet about it any longer. My name is Hylan and I AM A SURVIVOR.