A guy I dated about three maybe four years ago has started talking to me again. Keep in mind that I hadn't spoken to him since he left his friends & family to be with the "love of his life" two states away. Well, long story short, there's trouble in paradise. He's not happy & he's having regrets. Apparently they are both unhappy now. He said things changed between the two of them since he got back from Iraq. Sex has become non-existant, she blames him if she is running late for class (she's in college to be a veterinarian), they sleep in separate bedrooms, and she won't help him pay the bills or come up with a budget to pay bills. According to him, they've talked about trying to make the relationship work but she hasn't been willing to make it work. His words of course. And now he is talking to me again & told me he wished he hadn't moved to be w/her. He says he wishes he had me back & realizes the mistake he made, he wishes he had my life, etc. Honestly, I'm not a concilation prize. He's the one who chose to move away from friends & family to go be w/her. And now he's unhappy?! I will continue to be his friend but I am treading carefully & proceeding w/caution.