As I read through your stories, and research behaviors of abusers, patterns, and whether they can change. I am sickened. I identify with so many of these stories. For years I have been in denial. Each and every site I have gone to, the Ex fits every single thing, perfectly. It's like they met him, and know him.
The question I have today: How do I keep my children safe from this man? My DV resource center, says that I have to appear rational, and ask for supervised visitation. I DO NOT WANT my children around him. Is the goal to hope that he will drop away? That supervised is just going to be too hard for him, because he doesn't admit to anything he's done? He minimizes his actions. Will NOT acknowledge the trauma he's caused the boys. I am very confused and very sad.