Hi, I'm new to this forum. I'm Elizabeth and have 4 children. My youngest, William is in 2nd grade and has PDD-NOS and SPD (he was diagnosed at 4). We just moved from NC to MI over the summer. We had his first IEP meeting at our new school in October (they followed his old IEP as they were supposed to, and then we discussed what they observed, and basically it stayed pretty much the same). He gets st, ot, and social skills class at various points throughout the week. One of the things they are working on in social skills is outburts, and the school social worker who runs the class has given him startegies to use when he feels upset. Of course he's 7, so sometimes he remembers and sometimes he doesn't.
Anyways, my real reason for posting is about his parent teacher conference in November. When we got the sign up sheet, there were 15 minute blocks for the parents and teacher to meet. I asked my DH if he wanted to go, and since we just had the iep 3 weeks earlier, and this was *just* a parent teacher conference, we didn't think it was necessary for him to go. HaHa on us. When I got there, not only was my meeting with his regualr teacher (and of course she was in on his iep meeting the previous month), but the social worker was also there. My first thought was 'what is going on here.' They even asked if my husband was coming, and I mentioned that we didn't think it was necessary for a prent teacher conference. Anyways, apparently my son had been getting more and more upset in school, outbursts were more often and he was becoming harder to settle down. As the social worker put it 'the honeymoon is over.' Anyways, she said that since he seems harder to control, and he is not utilizing the calming strategies she has provided him, it is time to look into anxiety meds. Anyways, I'm not for meds and I'm not against meds. If he needs them, he needs them. But I don't think that a 7 year old who has just moved 1/2 way across the country and has started a new school is going to always remember the strategies told within the first quarter of the school year. I think she just doesn't know what to do with him, so why not medicate him (which has never been brought up before by his old school or the developmental pediatrician we saw in NC) Anyways, I felt really ambushed at this conference, and told them that I"d talk to my DH and our dr about this. Needless to say my DH was not happy that this sort of thing was discussed at a regular conference, and without him present, and we both feel it should have been brought up at a scheduled time with others from the special ed department. We've talked to William about his behavior, and he has improved since (last I was told, when I saw his teacher last week, she was always with another student, but I'm positive she would've stopped me and told me if things were not going well). This morning, thankfully I was not home at the time, the social worker called me to follow up on our conversation at the conference...so I told DH he could deal with her and set up a time to talk to her. We haven't set up a time to talk with our dr yet, as we were just going to wait until his regular physical in January.
So my main question is, was this 'legal' to do at a regular conference, or should something have been scheduled to include the special ed people as well? I know I will never go to a conference of his alone again. I can't find anything in our school district's book of rights, or online, that even addresses this sort of thing.
Thanks for any insight.