So here is the deal.. My boyfriend was previously married. For 10 years.(has a 4 yr old too) His ex cheated on him 4 times through marriage. They ended up separating, and 4 months later him and I were together. They were still married at the time. Their divorce wasn't finalized until another 4 months after that. We've been living together since August of 2011. I flat out talked to him about marriage. Told him that most people wanted to be CEO of a huge company, make thousands or millions a year with the nice house and car, but that wasn't me, all I ever wanted was to get married, settle down and have a family. He was blunt and made the comment about not wanting to get remarried because it cost too much. He has since changed that to I want to marry you now just isn't the right time. What I'm wondering is if anyone has any insight on to what he could possibly mean, or if he even plans on marrying me. Or if someone could even tell me if I am wasting my time. I would be willing to be his forever girlfriend because that's how much he means to me, him and his son both, but if I am wasting my time, I wanna know.