My youngest son, Mikey is having a hard time adjusting to life in Kindergarten. He is my youngest of four and my only child with asthma. He is already a high energy kid, and when you add being sick half the time, and then the breathing treatments that hype him up, it becomes very difficult for him to sit still, and pretty moody when the teachers tells him he needs to listen. I’m actively working with the teacher to help get him on the right track. He has his good days and bad days. But there has been much improvement. I seriously wonder why this wasn’t an issue in pre-k and wonder if he was allowed to “mouth back” because I surely wasn’t told about this behavior.
He is not a perfect angel at home. I have to remind him often that he is not allowed to yell, or throw something when he is mad. He goes through these cycles where he does really well, then he gets sick. Because he is sick he becomes miserable, and then the meds hype him up. So now you have a miserable child that really can’t do anything that is bouncing off the walls. When he gets better he has post sickness attitude. Takes about a week to get him back on track.
His father gets pretty mad at him but this makes things a million times worse. Mikey hates when people are upset with him. I don’t think his behavior is intentional, I think he is 5 and still learning how to cope with it. I personally believe he needs more patience shown to him because of this. And I know that using a calm firm voice when he is upset helps him calm down. Mikey doesn’t give me nearly the hard time that he gives his father. Mikey feeds off his father's mood when his father gets upset with him. Trying to balance work life and home life becomes quite the challenge because of this. Between staying home with him when he is sick and feeling like I shouldn't work late so I can be home with him after school is pretty stressful on me.
I don’t know what is wrong with people, but if I hear one more person tell me that “if that was my child I beat his @ss” I’m going to scream. Oh wait, too late I already have. I got into a huge argument with a friend of mine over this. I get this from some friends, some of my family, some of Mikey’s father’s family. I’m not in any delusional about my child behavior. Not ignoring the issues…. Not even a new mother that is just over whelmed and not sure where I went wrong. And most certainly I am not asking for their opinions. Support, sure, having someone to vent to would be great but honestly I don’t even do that much because I hate the judgment.