My mom was never loving. She rarely hugged or kissed me as a child and I am 27 now and she doesn't express affection.
When I was 0 years old to when I was 11, my dad had many affairs. And my mom found out when I was 11, and things happened at night when they were fighting. There was verbal abuse, violence and threats to kill my dad.
My mom is a very bitter woman. She didn't throw birthday parties for me ever. I put myself in therapy at age 14...I told my mom to sign the papers.
I moved out and supported myself at age 21 & now I am 27. I just earned my Bachelor's Degree and I have 2 jobs in my career field.
When I went to visit my mom on Christmas, my dad was at work. My mom put me in my brother's room (he moved out across the country) and I read a book in there, then I was called out to eat...then she sent me back to my brother's room to wait for the bus.
I am 27. I am old and should be more mature. But it still hurts that I don't have a loving mother. My dad makes conversation with me....but he's usually quiet. I spent most of my Christmas holiday with secondary family.
My mom is so cold & negative...I am not sure I feel love between us. When she talks, she doesn't really take in what I say and just keeps talking over me.
My friends know me as this sweet, loving, supportive girl. But it's this rejection from my mother that hurts. If I ever confronted her....which I would never.....she will not really register my words in her mind & keep talking over me (=not care/understand).
I had many failed relationships with men looking for love & I haven't been single for 8 years. Right now I am single, and hope to work on myself.
I need from iVillage users:
- please share your experiences with me so I don't feel like the only one with PARENTS WITH MARITAL PROBLEMS
- I need reassurance because I feel sad