Ok I can't win. My oldest I transitioned from an in home day care to a center based at 3. After a year he was over it and as a result I felt not that much more prepared for kindergarten especially when our town still transitions kids as if they had never gone to school which is a totally different issue. So my oldest I felt 2 years of preschool was pushing it and my youngest can't start kindy until he is 6 so when he turned 3 I wasn't in a rush to move him especially since center based centers around me cost at least $100 more a week then I currently pay and even those on the cheaper side of that scale do not open early enough for DH to take him and I can't get 1 kid to school on one side of town and the other on the other and I am already using half my lunch to come in 30 min earlier to drop oldest off at school.
My day care closed for 2 weeks at xmas and DH took some time off and yesterday was back to reality and my 4 year old LOST it. Dh said it was the MOST pathetic cry. He has always given us some resistance but lately its been BAD and DH and I think he is bored. She mostly has babies, he is the oldest plus he is used to having an older brother and doing bigger kid things.
I feel bad but we are also stuck, Aside from the cost there are waiting lists. I will have more options in the fall and 1 year of streching that budget won't kill us too much and I can look at places that are school year vs year round because I can get him in my oldest camp when he is going into kindy but how do you explain to a 4 year old, hang in there bud. My oldest is cute he keeps telling him that he'd LOVE to trade places and just hang out in a home play and watch TV. For as much as my town eases kids into kindy, by January they pull the rug from under them and never look back with this huge acedemic standards which is another reason I want him to just be a kid. Some of these centers expect so much and they are just kids. Its not their fault mom and dad have to work so it shouldn't be 8 hours of acedemics. I found one place that I want to look at and DH doesn't. Its in a home but it does more centerbased stuff but they also have the kids need to be kids at this age mentality and I like that. DH on the hand doesn't think its THAT much different then he is in.
I just feel bad, the working mom guilt is kicking in BIG time. He literally went through EVERY family memeber who EVER watched him to see if they were availabe. I tried to get from him what was so bad and its almost like he feels the babies are bullying him and tried explained they are just yoinger they don't know better but I can see how it could be ANNOYING to be around infants and toddlers all day...