I honestly didn't think I would have a feel good "fist pump" moment anytime soon, however, it has happened. As I drove home from work yesterday I felt good, good that I had made it through another day being separated from xap by only a clear pane of glass and not once wanting to talk to him, or see what he was doing or who he was talking too, cos guess what? I didn't care! I don't care! and to think it was only on Sunday Dec 23rd we had lunch, we went shopping, he picked the diamond ring he would buy me when he wins lotto and can afford to leave his wife, for those not familiar with my story the A actually ended in September, but it has dragged on emotionally until Dec 27th when for whatever reason I don't know (I don't care) he decided to put complete blame on me to save his marriage. But I actually feel better now knowing its over than I have for months, limbo land was horrific and its not a place I want to ever go back. I still love him and to be honest in our 2 year A its only been the last 4 months that I have felt like I was recieving crumbs. 

So my theory for what its worth, I believe you can love your A person and they can love you, but if circumstances aren't right, it's not right either. It is All or Nothing!