I'm a middle aged guy who volunteered through the Big Brothers Big Sisters organization to mentor a 10 year-old boy. We've been getting together since Thanksgiving every week and are having fun together (e.g., bowling, swimming, eating out, movies). He was at his dad's for the holidays and when he got back he called and left a message for me saying, "I miss you, can't wait to see you again." OMG. I had tears in my eyes. It was the sweetest, most vulnerable message you've ever heard from a kid. I'm really falling in love with this kid. He's been neglected and abandoned by everyone--including his parents who have drug issues (he lives with his brother and grandmother). After the message I wanted to just put my arms around him and hold him forever, tell him I love him, that he's a great kid and that I will always be there for him and never leave him. My own father was very affectionate and had no problem hugging me and my sister and telling us he loved us and how great we were. But the thing is, I'm not this kid's father and wonder how appropriate that is (he only sees his real father twice a year). The other thing is, in this world that has become hyper aware of childhood sexual abuse, I don't want to send any wrong impressions. So when would be safe/appropriate time to hug him and tell him I love him? Thanks!