I recently married a man who has a co-dependent relationship with his mother. At first I thought he was just close with his family but the longer we have been married, the more I am seeing his personal identity was wrapped up in his parents. His father also recently passed away so his connection to his mother is a more delicate situation.
He calls his mom everyday and sees her on most days. She is at our house often and when we were looking for a home together one of the deciding factors on the house was that it couldn't be too far away from his mom. I do not share the same schedule as my husband and the days that he has off, activities most always include us and his mom somehow. His mother always needs his attention and I feel like her needs are met before mine.
Here's where it gets worse. Before we got married my husband told me he wanted to wait to have sex until we got married. Even though I ultimately did not want to wait, I did at his request. Now that we are married we barely have sex. I have made advancements in the past such as surprising him with lingerie to which he made an excuse as to why he didn't want to have sex.
I don't feel emotionally attached to him at all and am questioning if he could possibly be gay.
I'm at a loss and am wondering why we got married- what was his motivation to have a wife?