I first met this guy G maybe around 1999 on OLD. We went out a couple of times, it was ok, but he seemed to work a lot and then I met 2nd DH so I kind of forgot about him. After I was married (so maybe around 2004 or so) G hired me to do some legal work for him, so he knew I was married at that time. Another time, I remember he referred a friend for a divorce. Didn't see him for years until about 2 yrs ago, after I was divorced--again he referred a friend to me for a divorce and I was also doing some legal work for him too--it was all over the phone/email so we never saw each other in person. I suggested that maybe he could drop by some time to meet for lunch if he was around--we ended up having dinner together (he paid). I thought we had a good time at dinner, very easy to have conversation--it seemed like he enjoyed it too. He said he'd call me again for lunch--never happened. I actually would be fine not dating him and just being friends and going out every once in a while for dinner or hang out. He's a workaholic and I think it would be too hard to have a relationship w/ him, but I never got a chance to convey that message since we never met up again. So a while later, I decide to go on EHarmony--guess who one of my first matches is! I wrote him a little note like "isn't this funny?" because it'snot like you can pretend that you didn't see the person's picture or didn't recognize it--he didn't even write back. I was mad and just figured ok, I'll never see him again, we won't be friends and I'll just forget about him totally. I really hadn't thought much about him until today when he sends me an invitation to connect on Linkedin. What? So yes, I know it's a business site and not even as friendly or personal as Facebook so I am not thinking that he wants to be friends but he's obviously not avoiding me for life either. Someday I expect to get a call from him to evict a tenant or to do another friend's divorce & he'll act like it's just normal to call me after a few years and it will be like we never went out to dinner or anything.
Now this guy is middle aged and never been married so there's probably a reason for that that he is avoiding relationships, yet if he's on OLD, he obviously wants to date. I just wish I could get a guy like this and say "do you know how lucky you would be to have me?" lol I mean we obviously get along quite well, we're both Italian, so similar family backgrounds, he's a couple of years younger than me, he doesn't live too far away--he has money, always a plus--and I would put up with the fact that he is NOT GOOD LOOKING! How many women does he think are going to get past that fact to get to know him on OLD and not be superficial? I don't even remember now why I took a chance on him on OLD--maybe he didn't have a picture? Oh well, what can you do? His loss.