I hope I'm just being paranoid, but I have reasons to believe my xAP's W or xW (I don't know their status at this point) may be contacting me. Please don't mind if I don't tell you what those reasons are. My question is, if that happened, what would you do???? Here's some background, for the ones who don't know my story:
-The A lasted 1.5 years. I ended my marriage before he ended his because we supposedly wanted to be together. I waited for almost a year.
-His W went away for a temporary job abroad all last semester. At that point he said they were through, but who knows. He dumped me exactly when she left. Now she's back.
-The reason for leaving me was that, in spite of all promises to the contrary an in spite of having discussed the issue many times, he claimed that he had "just" realized that although he loved me, he didn't want to share me with my own child, that he wanted me all to himself, and since it wasn't possible, he'd rather "just find someone else."
-After a lot of therapy, I have come to believe that he has some serious psychological problems (I do too, rest assured, but those are a different story. :)) . My therapist believes that his behavior (the details at this point are not important) is that of a narcissistically disordered person, with possibly some psychopathic traits (no guilt, no empathy, by his own admission).
-We are co-workers
That's it. So... IF she contacts me, I think it is my duty to admit to the A if she asks, but a) I'd like to be careful because he's in a position of more power than me where we work, and I'm afraid he'd be vindictive. b) I don't know how much information about the A I should give her, or whether I should tell her to just ask him c) I don't know if it's my duty to tell her he's possibly a dangerous person. I believe now that he has emotionally abused her.
Sorry if this sounds like a soap opera. It would just be better for me to be prepared for this hypothetical situation. Hugs,