I am really at a loss right now and could use some advice. About 2 months ago I caught my boyfriend texting his friend's sister very inappropriately. There was a lot of him telling her what he would do to her, she sent him a picture of her chest,her asking why they never got together over the years, etc.etc. At one point in the conversation she asked him "what about your girlfriend?" To which he replied "she works a lot and is tired." That is completely false, we have always had a fantastic and frequent sex life. Also, in the conversation he asked her to let him come over and she could climb into his car and on top of his ____. She blew it off. Later in the conversation he asked her to meet up with him tomorrow, get drunk and ____ all day long." She played a fine line in encouraging him while at the same time avoiding committing to meeting up with him.
I confronted him with it and there was a huge blow out. I called him a lot of names. I told him I couldn't believe he would sit there and be a part of me and my son's life and do something like this when he knows how much we both adore him. We fought all day long, and eventually ended up in bed. Afterwards I went right back to being mad at him. At this point he completely turned it around on me, screaming at me, and said that if we are going to fix this and move on that I can't constantly be bringing it up. He never really gave me a solid answer as to why he did it, his only explanation was that he was bored and wanted to "get off." I asked him several times, "what would you have done if she would have said yes to meeting up with you?" He says that is an unfair question because he can't tell me what would happen in a situation that did not happen.
I feel like I never got the period of me being pissed and him putting up with it because he immediately swept it under the rug. Since then, our relationship sucks. We fight constantly, almost everyday about everything. I'm a complete witch to him about the stupidest silliest things. I always trusted him unconditionally before this, now I have anxiety if he isn't home or at work. I am still so hurt and so so angry. I know he loves me......his actions show me everyday. He says that he would never do anything like that again because he has seen how much it hurt me. He says he was an idiot..
I just can't get over it. We fight so much, and I think I'm losing my love for him. I just want to find peace. My biggest question, am I a fool for letting him talk his way out of it?