In the past five years, a group of us (men and women) from high school started hanging out again. We have included spouses and do dinners together, concerts, bonfires, etc. Some of us women get together to shop and have lunch. We email, text and talk on Facebook. We do joke about sex since we are all married and adults.
At our last get-together, there was A LOT of drinking and laughing. My one girlfriend, Becky, and I were chatting and all of a sudden, the tipsy wife of the guy, Kevin, I dated back in high school came up to us and said to Becky, "If you EVER want to swap, I'd love to do your husband! And you can do Kevin!" We were both stunned. Wife then went on and on about Becky's husband, but we played it off as a joke. There have been other times that we suspected Wife had a thing for Becky's husband, so this pretty much confirms it.
Kevin and I are very good friends and chat via email about once a week. My husband knows and doesn't care, but I've never asked if Kevin's wife knows. We chat about normal stuff: our families (kids), complain about our dysfunctional extended fams (parents and siblings), the weather, jobs, etc. In his last message, he pointedly asked about a lunch get-together that his wife wasn't invited to (it was mentioned on FB.) I don't know how to tell him what his wife said and that we are now uncomfortable with her. Even if I did, he may try to chalk it up to her drinking. I am apprehensive to respond because I don't want to even be remotely mistaken for jealous. And I sure don't want to hurt him by saying his wife wants another man and offered him up for exchange.
(Although the general consensus among us is that Wife is the insecure one, which is why she waited til alcohol gave her liquid courage to offer up her husband to my friend in front of me. Becky's husband said if she ever brings it up again, he is telling her off and bringing Kevin into the conversation. As he said, "I sure wouldn't have sex with a woman just because her husband wanted to do my wife! How pathetic is that?")
We do have a "swinging' couple in our group, but they keep their lifestyle on the downlow because they have younger kids and don't want anyone to misconstrue their intentions. Becky plans on just writing off Kevin and his wife.
Should I tell Kevin what his wife said to Becky in front of me?