I'm so frustrated with my husband, can you tell me if I'm being unreasonable or not?  We've been trying to have a baby for several years, and it just hasn't happened.  After the first year, I got some testing done by my ob/gyn and everything looked normal.  He refused to get tested at that time, and it took another good year of me hounding him for him to agree to it.  I might sound cold hearted, but I was tired of seeing negative pregnancy tests month after month, I couldn't take it anymore.  It's just too heart wrenching to be hoping every month and then to have those hopes dashed.  We found out that he has a extremely low sperm count, basically it will take a miracle to get pregnant.  He took it very hard, understandably, but I don't think it should stop us from using other methods to get pregnant.  I'd like to look at the option of using donor sperm, he's not even willing to talk about it.  I think it's safer all around, and we really don't have the money to do IVF (which the doctor said would still be a long shot).  How can I convince my husband to at least think about it?