My mom is in very poor health right now, and has been unable to travel to see our family for several years. I've taken our kids on trips out to see her, but we only have so much money to do this. My MIL told my husband that she is upset that we aren't making the same effort to bring the grandkids to see her, she told him that she thinks I'm selfish. I feel like I'm in a no-win situtation. My MIL is in really good health, takes trips throughout the year with her sisters and is totally capable of coming to visit us. My mom, unfortunately, does not have that same capability. Should I feel guilty about this or just let her be upset? I was considering trying to talk to her about it, but it really, really bugs me that she's being so difficult about this when I don't know how much time my mom has left. It's really cooled my relationship with her, which I thought has generally been good up until this point. What would you do?