Hello,

How is everyone. I have not been here in months. I used to be here daily. I have been affiar free for well over 3 years. I was a straight hot mess, my story is long and way too depressing to even go into. I will say, that there is love, life, and pure joy after an affair. Life really does go on and you can forgive yourself and those that hurt you, especially those of us who hurt ourselves. I hurt myself more than MM ever did. I was my own worst enemy. I grew up watching an affair, despising my mother for the pain she caused so many and then I became exactly what I hated. Go figure....

All that to say. STICK it out. Stay NC. Follow the rules and what is tried, tested and true. I have known Clarity for years and there is no one better to run this board...I have seen people come and go. I have made some great friends here, some of which I communicate with in real life....support one another. Don't take a real response as a insult. Take it from somewhere who has been there and done that. The tweeners and vets are here to support the newbies. The newbies remind of us of how slippery the slope is...and the pain that keeps us on the straight and narrow. Letting go is tough, staying a A hell is way worse....

So nice to see some of my old friends here. Trust me....there is joy, strength and better you post A...I am proof, as are so many others. Blessings and strength to you all.