Let's try this post again. (previous one was are by the new message boards!) I would say for me the first couple weeks were complete shell shocked moments for me. Every step I made was in fear of stepping on another land mine. After all everything in the world you thought you knew, was a lie. But of course everyone is different. I will strongly suggest to you that you go see your doctor if you haven't yet. Get some meds. They are a life line to sanity. Especially if you feel that right now you are not able to take care of the kids properly. You also need to get your STD check. I was paranoid about that for a long time, but slowly got better as results came in.
Good luck. I know it sucks, but time will heal this for you too. Hugs.